Truth for Lies

This year our Mom's Mentorship group is going through the book, Lies Homeschool Moms Believe by Todd Wilson.  This book is a light, humorous, but convicting book to any reader, in my opinion.  In it I am challenged to evaluate my actions, my beliefs, my motives, and my heart.  I am convicted to bring each though captive to Christ and work hard to find the lies, especially the hidden ones, in my everyday thoughts. 

The following are the notes I shared for our first meeting, a discussion of chapter 1. 

Lies Homeschool Moms Believe by Todd Wilson

Part 1: Foundations

“...what you believe directly affects how you live, the decisions you make, and your outlook on life...” p. 15

“I waited patiently for the LORD; And He inclined to me and heard my cry. He brought me up out of the pit of destruction, out of the miry clay, And He set my feet upon a rock making my footsteps firm. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God ; Many will see and fear And will trust in the LORD. How blessed is the man who has made the LORD his trust, And has not turned to the proud, nor to those who lapse into falsehood.” Ps. 40: 1-4

Note: In my personal journey with the Lord, He has used this verse time and again to help me see the power of His redeeming work in my life. At the point of my salvation, He rescued me from the pit of my sinful choices and set my feet upon the rock of powerful truths.  I am called to walk firmly in His path, praise His holy name and to keep myself from lapsing into falsehood.  Yet, so often I am lured back into the miry clay of my life before His cleansing and I find myself choosing to believe the lies that pull me far from Him.


Women are prone to believing lies:
*Women easily fall prey to believing they are failing or not adequate for the task.

“Your husband probably isn’t affected by these same lies. If your husband is prone to believing lies, he probably believes the lie that he is better than he really is.” p. 19 and following

“If believed, lies become the truth to the one who believes them.” p. 20

“When you sit down to dine with a ruler, Consider carefully what is before you, And put a knife to your throat If you are a man of great appetite. Do not desire his delicacies, For it is deceptive food. Do not weary yourself to gain wealth, Cease from your consideration of it. When you set your eyes on it, it is gone. For wealth certainly makes itself wings Like an eagle that flies toward the heavens. Prov. 23:1-5

Note:  We need to beware of the home education "rulers" out there. The ones who lead us to believe that if we do life, school, parenting the way THEY do it, we will have a perfect life.  Even well meaning, wise and loving mentors can lead us on a path of deception when we allow ourselves to desire THEIR success, THEIR victories, and THEIR relationships rather than what the Lord has planned for our own unique families. We need to guide our hearts to desire only the Lord and not the "food" and gifts that He has given to others.


“Did you know that everything you do, every decision you make, and the attitudes you hold are based on what you believe? Every single decision, from the simple, daily decisions of life to the complex, weighty decisions that you make from time to time stem from your belief system.” p.21

*What did you believe when you first chose home education? (see p. 21)

Who among you is wise and understanding ? Let him show by his good behavior his deeds in the gentleness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” James 3:13-18

Note: My choice for home education did not come from a strong belief that the Lord was calling me to this noble purpose.  My first motivation was that I desired, above all things, to be just like a beautiful, godly woman in my life. She had been my mentor and friend since I was a teenager, and I believed that to be as close to God as she was, I needed to pattern my life in the exact way she did.  She was actively serving the church in various ministries, so I did the same. She was homeschooling her children, so I knew I would do the same. I was reading homeschooling books while pregnant with our firstborn.  Looking back, I realize how selfishly I was driven. As the verse above states, I was motivated by jealousy (albeit, not bitter) and selfish ambition.  I wanted to be just like her, rather than follow the Lord's specific call for our own family.  Years later, I know that we now learn together at home as a tool of obedience to the Lord in training our children for His glory. Yet, it took a physical separation from my friend, years of seeking, hurting, and failing, and striving, and learning to cleave to my husband's leadership before I let go of my desire to impress and duplicate someone else's walk with the Lord.  In fact, now when I visit this dear friend, I see that our lives are very different, and I'm ever so grateful that the Lord has chosen a uniquely different path for me. 


Lies are Joy Stealers
*The Swimmer (p. 23-24)

“...lies blind you from seeing the truth and leave you feeling defeated and alone. One of the surest ways you can tell whether what you believe is the truth or simply a counterfeit lie is by the weight of the burden you feel.
Truth doesn’t weigh you down with guilt and despair; it lifts you up with hope and joy.” p. 24

“Every word of God is tested; He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him. Do not add to His words Or He will reprove you, and you will be proved a liar. Two things I asked of You, Do not refuse me before I die: Keep deception and lies far from me, Give me neither poverty nor riches; Feed me with the food that is my portion, That I not be full and deny You and say, "Who is the LORD?" Or that I not be in want and steal, And profane the name of my God. “ Prov. 30: 5-9

Fill in the blank:
All homeschool moms ___________________________________ .


As a homeschool family we should ___________________________________.

For Discussion:
Right now, in your homeschool journey do you feel lost, weary, or weighted down? Why or why not?


Our Challenge:
“But you did not learn Christ in this way, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught in Him, just as truth is in Jesus, that, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth. Therefore, laying aside falsehood, SPEAK TRUTH EACH ONE of you WITH HIS NEIGHBOR, for we are members of one another.” Eph. 4:20-25

Will you commit to loving one another this way? Will you commit to speaking truth to your fellow homeschool moms, keeping them from the lies of the enemy?  Will we commit to being members of one another, thereby enabling each other to break down the walls that are deceiving us?


Prayer Requests:

If I Have Not Love...

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.

 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned , and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. 1 Corinthian 13:1-3

What is my true desire? What is my real calling in life? What is the *thing* that gives evidence of the Lord working in my life? What matters most to God?

 
A level of spirituality that enables me to speak in an unknown manner, somehow drawing me closer to God and elevating me above others?

Abundant knowledge of scriptures and the ability to tell forth their truths?

Inpenetrable faith that overpowers any obstacle?

Generosity that saves my fellow man?

Perseverance in the midst of desparate persecution?

Holding fast, even to the point of death?

No.  If I strive for these, I Have Nothing.

Love. Charity. Brotherly Love. Affection. Good Will. Benevolence.  Agape Love. 

This is what should define my life.

Yet, when I think of love, I do not think rightly. I have grown up in a culture that taught me that love is self-driven and self-rewarding. I have been taught that love is determined by how I feel, not what I do. I have been taught that love can change, it can grow or fade and either is perfectly acceptable.

This is not the love that the Lord has for me. This is not the love that the Lord has equipped me to live out as I follow Him.  His definition of love exceeds these human attempts of self-preservation and self-exaltation.

This is the Love that Christ calls me to. This is True Love:

Love suffers long and is kind;

Love does not envy;

Love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

Love does not behave rudely,

Love does not seek its own,

Love is not provoked,

Love thinks no evil;

Love does not rejoice in iniquity, but

Love rejoices in the truth;

Love bears all things,

Love believes all things,

Love hopes all things,

Love endures all things.

Matthew 5:43-44

Ye have heard that it hath been said , Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.  But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

John 14:15

If ye love me, keep my commandments.

John 14:23

Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.

Ephesians 4:1-3

I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called , With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

Christian Nice Girl

I read an article recently that use the term, "Christian Nice Girl" or "CNG".  Of course, a catchy phrase like that catches my attention. Isn't that what we strive for, to represent Christ in a nice way? Yet, the phrase reeks of negativity and sarcasm as soon as you see it. What in the world could be wrong with being "nice"?

The premise of the author, Peter Coughlin, was that some women hide behind the label "nice" when in reality they are avoiding conflict.  Mr. Coughlin pointed out that many of us will allow people in our lives to sin against us while we say nothing, smile and hold in our hurt feelings all under the belief that we are being "nice" or loving to play the Perpetual Doormat.

I appreciated the provoking viewpoint Mr. Coughin presented in his article. I do struggle often with thoughts that I allow others to take advantage of me, not expressing my real thoughts and feelings. Generally, I do this believing that I am extending grace and forgiveness to others, yet real forgiveness keeps no record of wrongs. I am not forgiving if I repeat the matter to another, pointing out how poorly I've been treated. So, yes, I am guilty of using "nice" to spare myself of conflict and vulnerability.

However, this article, in my opinion, did not fully examine the Lord's teaching on this matter. While the author did give reference to the thought that we need to speak the truth in love, stating that even Jesus confronted those in their sin, he does not spend adequate time discussing Christ's commands we are given to love beyond ourselves and our hurts.  The scriptures are clear that we are called to love one another without regard to our feelings, injuries, or self-preservation. And, yes, while the Lord was firm (even harsh) with the Pharisees and their offensive behavior, He has a whole different plan for how believers are to behave toward one another. Yes, we are commanded to "speak the truth in love". Yes, if I hold my tongue, pretending to be "nice" while really planning a vicious attack in my mind that will never be known (at least not by the person it is directed towards), I am not obeying the Lord's command to truly love that person. I am withholding the truth regarding their sinful actions, thereby disobeying the Lord and keeping us both from growing in the knowledge of Him. However, the examples in this article would lead one to believe that we should speak out our feelings directly, as if this in itself were speaking the Truth. It is clear that the Truth we are to speak is the Truth found in scripture, the Lord's teaching. I am not commanded to blast anyone with the "truth" of my own feelings and thoughts(Ephesians 4 is rich with the Lord's teaching on this)

I am currently reading through 1 Peter. Our family is also giving study to the Love that the Lord has called us to in His word. That Love is a strong contrast to the love the world offers. Today, in my reading, I see the Lord calling me to think carefully on how I would "speak the truth in love".

Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil. And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good? But and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled; But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ. For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing. For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit:"

If I am to truly love my brothers and sisters in Christ, then I must be vigilant to guard my tongue from speaking evil.  If I am wronged, I must be cautious to speak out the Lord's truth regarding the sin involved, not my feelings or self-preservation that I seek. It is true that the Lord has called me to be bold in regards to His word and the answers I have regarding the hope I have found in him. It is not true that I, therefore, have a license to indulge my need to be heard, right, or comforted.  I still wrestle through how to overcome my insecurities and fear of rejection, not allowing those things to keep me from pressing forward with words that will ultimately bring restoration, healing, and growth. As I work through this issue, looking for the right balance, I am content to choose silence and prayer in the moment I have been wronged allowing the Lord time to make His truth clear and whether it is my place to proclaim it or not.

Ephesians

I have been so blessed by the ladies' bible study I attended this spring. I'm amazed at the level of depth and comittement to study I see in the women that are a part of this study. It's been challenging me to get in there and work hard through the scriptures to discover the amazing truths our Lord has for us. I plan to add my notes from the study here, hoping to present them in clarity. Please leave a comment if you have a question or I've been unclear.  This page is a bit of a work in progress, so I'll be glad to hear your prayerful input. :-)

Ephesians 1:3  "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ."

What are these "spiritual blessings" that God has blessed us with? The following is a list of all that we receive in the process of our salvation. Not only is this list striking to read through, but it is more awe inspiring when we realize that it all a gift from our Lord.  It is accomplished by Him, given by Him, initiated by Him, and for the purpose of His own glory. Hallelujah! What a mighty God I serve!

The Order of Salvation:
 1. Election - God's choice
 2. Gospel Call - hearing
 3. Regeneration - born again
 4. Conversion - faith & repentance
 5. Justification - declared righteous
 6. Adoption - sealed by the Spirit
 7. Sanctification - progressive, positional, glorification
 8. Perseverance
 9. Death
10. Glorification - receiving a resurrected body


These are my notes from the week I had the privilege of leading the discussion on the topic of Justification.
May 19, 2011


Prayer: Ephesians 1: 15-19

Review: The Order of Salvation - Election, The Gospel Call/Effectual Call, Regeneration (new birth), Conversion (faith & repentance)

These are all gifts given by the Lord, a result of Christ’s finished work , the Father’s initiative, and the Holy Spirit’s continued work in our lives.

Justification

Read: Ephesians 1

Definition: “Justification before God is an act of God (Rm 8:30,33) by which He declares righteous those who, through faith in Christ, repent of their sins (Luke 13:3; Acts 2:38; 3:19;11:18;Rom. 2:4;2 Cor.7:10; Is.55:6-7) and confess Him as sovereign Lord (Rom. 10:9-10; 1 Cor. 12:3; 2 Cor. 4:5; Phil. 2:11). By this means, God is enabled to ‘be just, and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus.’ (Rom. 3:26) “ John MacArthur (MacArthur Quick Reference Guide To The Bible, 2001)
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Definition: Propitiation - Propitiation is not placating a vengeful God but, rather, it is satisfying the righteousness of a holy God, thereby making it possible for Him to show mercy righteously. (The New Scofield Study Bible, 1988)
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Justification as explained by James M. Boice (Foundations of the Christian Faith, 1986)

Two points:
1. It is God who justifies and not we ourselves.

Here we are helped by the image of the salvation triangle. Propitiation, redemption and justification, three key words for understanding the death of Christ, may be used to connect Christ, the Father and Christians, thus forming a triangle. (see attached) We are the recipients of two acts: redemption and justification. We contribute nothing to our salvation. Christ is the initiator of two acts: propitiation and redemption, for it is he who achieves salvation for us. God the Father is the recipient of one act: propitiation, Jesus satisfying God’s wrath. On the basis of this the Father initiates the last act: justification, in which he reaches out in grace to reckon the ungodly to be right with himself.

2. Justification is given as a legal pronouncement, not a reference to people becoming more holy.

When a judge justifies someone, he does not make that person upright or blameless. No changes are made in the person whatsoever. Rather the judge declares that in his judgment the person is not guilty of the accusation that has been made and is instead in right standing before the law that the judge was appointed to administer.The judge is not saying anything about the accused person’s character.

The Christian doctrine, strictly speaking is justification by faith and not merely justification. Alone, justification means to declare righteous, as we have indicated.But justification by faith is God’s declaring believers to be righteous not on the basis of their own works, but on the basis of Christ’s sacrifice.

The gospel says that when those who have been made alive by God turn from their own works which can only condemn them and instead, by faith, embrace the Lord Jesus Christ as their Savior, God declares their sins to have been punished at Calvary and imputes the righteousness of Christ to their account.
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Bible Dictionary (dictionary.com)

Justification: a forensic term, opposed to condemnation. As regards its nature, it is the judicial act of God, by which he pardons all the sins of those who believe in Christ, and accounts, accepts, and treats them as righteous in the eye of the law, i.e., as conformed to all its demands. In addition to the pardon of sin, justification declares that all the claims of the law are satisfied in respect of the justified. It is the act of a judge and not of a sovereign. The law is not relaxed or set aside, but is declared to be fulfilled in the strictest sense; and so the person justified is declared to be entitled to all the advantages and rewards arising from perfect obedience to the law (Rom. 5:1-10; Titus 3:7). It proceeds on the imputing or crediting to the believer by God himself of the perfect righteousness, active and passive, of his Representative and Surety, Jesus Christ (Rom. 10:3-9). Justification is not the forgiveness of a man without righteousness, but a declaration that he possesses a righteousness which perfectly and for ever satisfies the law, namely, Christ's righteousness (2 Cor. 5:21; Rom. 4:6-8). The sole condition on which this righteousness is imputed or credited to the believer is faith in or on the Lord Jesus Christ. Faith is called a "condition," not because it possesses any merit, but only because it is the instrument, the only instrument by which the soul appropriates or apprehends Christ and his righteousness (Rom. 1:17; 3:25, 26; 4:20, 22; Phil. 3:8-11; Gal. 2:16). The act of faith which thus secures our justification secures also at the same time our sanctification; and thus the doctrine of justification by faith does not lead to licentiousness (Rom. 6:2-7). Good works, while not the ground, are the certain consequence of justification (6:14; 7:6).
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Justification according to Paul ~ Romans 3-5

Chapter 3 - all are guilty of breaking the law, because of Christ’s righteousness, the Father justifies us, declaring us righteous as well.

Chapter 4 - This justification is a gift of faith, not a result of works, practices, or following the law (as seen by OT examples).

Chapter 5 - Results of Justification

1. Peace with God
2. Standing in Grace
3. Exult in hope of the glory of God
4. Exult in tribulations
5. Love of God poured out within our hearts
6. Saved from the wrath of God
7. Reconciled to God
8. Exult in God
9. We hold a position of reigning with Christ
10. We are free from condemnation
11. We are made righteous
12. Grace will reign where sin once did
13. Eternal Life